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    Andrew Welch

    Single, female and a naturist

    New member Emma James discovers a wonderful world of new friends

    I’ve been comfortable with the human body for many years but never really felt able to explore naturism as a way of life, hoping in the decade or so I’ve been a single parent that I might one day find a partner who would be keen to explore naturism with me.

    Being single held me back from joining BN, my perception being that I’d be happier joining as part of a couple. Where’s the joy in going on holiday on your own? There’s merit but it’s decidedly more fun in company not to mention cheaper, thanks to those dratted single supplements!

    In September this year, I planned a short break with my then-Partner at the wonderful Waterhouse in Scotland (www.waterhousekbt.co.uk) with fine dining and golf also on the menu – but said man skipped off, leaving me once again single, still a female and, having sent off my application form for British Naturism, a burgeoning official naturist.

    When I was growing up, we had a garden big enough to sunbathe in without worrying about the neighbours; in my current house, there’s absolutely no way. I’ve spent time on naturist beaches and my poor eighteen-year-old son despairs at the lack of clothing on display in the house first thing in the morning.

    It was no surprise to him, or my daughter, when I became a member of BN. I wish I’d joined years ago; then they, too, could have enjoyed spending time at my local sun club, Diogenes.

    Diogenes is a large manor house in Buckinghamshire, set in six acres of beautiful grounds, run by the members for the members. There’s a regular programme of social events and it’s become part of my life, along with the people.

    To my surprise, the naturist community couldn’t have been more welcoming or accepting, although I’m not your archetypal applicant.

    As a member of British Naturism, I’m entitled to post on the BN forum which I did by way of introduction and I’m slowly getting to know members of the community locally and nationally.

    I learnt of Diogenes (www.diogenessunclub.co.uk) where I’m delighted to say, I was recently accepted.

    The application process requires you to meet with 12 committee members on a one-to-one basis so they can get to know you – not, as I imagined in my nightmare scenario, a scene whereby I was sitting in a chair opposite a long trestle table with twelve people firing questions at me, but altogether more relaxed chats, sometimes clothed, sometimes not. As any naturist will tell you, it’s entirely weather-dependent!

    In common with the BN Forums, people have been very friendly and welcoming, despite my irrepressible nature and boundless energy. “You’re very enthusiastic” commented one club member with a grin.

    I’m naturally very sporty so I’ve been availing myself of the amazing facilities at Diogenes. The 60ft heated outdoor pool has been the main focus of my attention with one-hour stretches being clocked up on a regular basis. “You’ll get thrown out for being too fit” commented another member.

    The exquisite heated indoor pool, with its wonderful tiling and large canvas paintings, has also been a focus, along with “boules in the buff” as I tweet on a regular basis. I’d never played boules before Diogenes and what a great game it is – social, strategic, competitive and the heart of Diogenes, along with Miniten which I’ve yet to try.

    I’m very glad that being single didn’t continue to hold me back from becoming part of such a vibrant, friendly, relaxed community and if you’re in the same position, I’d suggest you too take the plunge, join BN and find your local club.

    There’s a world of like-minded people out there, happy to extend a welcome to you as they have to me.

    My world is undoubtedly a richer place since becoming a naturist and I know that this, along with sailing which I’ve recently taken up, will be very much part of my future irrespective of whether anyone is brave enough to walk alongside me – they wouldn’t keep up anyway...

    See you at the BN Alton Towers weekend!

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    Richard Sims

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    Here's some recently posted "body image stuff";-

    http://www.everydayhealth.com/columns/steve-maraboli-the-healthy-empowered-life/the-essence-of-beauty/

    And ;- (1)    “The more you are able to accept a person when they stand out from the crowd, the more you begin to recognize the diversity of humanity”.  “We the people change society.  We set the standards and boldly go where none have tread before, and it is through these actions that new standards begin to develop”.

    (2)    “Sometimes, the people around you won’t understand your journey.  They don’t need to, it’s not for them”.

    (3)    “People do not decide to become extraordinary, They decide to accomplish extraordinary things”, (explorer Sir Edmund Hillary).

    (4)    “I am obsessed with being a woman comfortable in her own skin”.

    (5)    “You never change things by fighting the existing reality.  To change something, build a new model that makes the existing model obsolete”, (Buckminster Fuller).

    (6)    “Wanting to be someone else, is a waste of the person you are”.  “I don’t mind living in a mans world, so long as I can be a woman in it”, (Marilyn Monroe).

    (7)    “There are some people who could hear you speak a thousand words and still not understand you.  And there are others who will understand without you even speaking a word”.

    (8)    “Eventually soul mates meet for they have the same hiding place”, (Robert Brault).

    (9)    “Small daily improvements are the key to staggering Long-term results”.

    (10)“It’s not what you are that holds you back, It’s what you think you’re not”.

    (11)“A smile is the Prettiest thing you can wear”.

    (12)“In every dustbin, there’s a daffodil”, (positive outlook = Eric Sykes).

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    I am a single female through being widowed, have been a naturist for around 50yrs now and really miss having a naturist partner.

    Some years ago I had breast cancer and as a result lost one breast, thankfully, due to being a naturist, I have always been comfortable in my skin and the fact that I only have one breast has never bothered me at all, in fact going to social events, most people just don't notice as they are talking to me, not my body.

    Approx 18 months after surgery, for various reasons, a family member and myself carried out a lot of research and eventually set up a business, supplying and fitting lingerie and swimwear for ladies who have had surgery or who have various fitting problems.

    We did talks all over the country on the subject, also setting up clinics in local hospitals, working alongside breast care nurses. As a result, I was featured in several newspapers and magazines, also, eventually on television. Most of the time, I did not hide the fact that I was a naturist and it was reported in some of the papers.

    Where is this leading, just the fact that I am a single, female naturist, comfortable in my skin but missing a partner.

    Where is this leading, just the fact that I am a single, female naturist of long standing

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    Hello Marigold, thank you for your interesting comment. Nice to shake your virtual hand across the internet and hopefully I will meet you at an event in the future.  Sorry I have only just seen this.  

     

    The community is wonderful for it's stance on body confidence/body acceptance.  What an inspirational story yours is and how marvellous to hear that you were happy to mention the significance of your naturism when you were interviewed.  I hope you have found a significant other since writing this.  Certainly there are many wonderful people in the community but it's finding the right one to merit become a couple which is key isn't it.

     

    Richard thank you very much for your input too.  I love the quotes and the link through to the article is very apt thank you.  I'll tweet that out shortly.  Again, apologies for not spotting your comment until now.  

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    Hello Marigold

     

    I am a single female through being widowed, have been a naturist for around 30yrs now and really miss having a naturist partner who was my soul mate. I hope to meet you sometime. 

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